Relationship Communication

Do People Bug You And You Don

Is there someone that continually rubs you the wrong way? Or plays people against each other in front of you? Or talks about people behind their backs, making you uncomfortable? All of this isn't good of course, but the worse part is, you don't know how

Why Are You Treated The Way You Are?
by Tony Schirtzinger; ACSW, CICSW
95% Of The Time, We Get Treated The Way We INVITE People To Treat Us. Everything we do, especially our nonverbal behavior, is an invitation to those around us. A smile is an invitation. So is a frown. So is a sad face, an angry face, or a serious face

Communication and Teamwork Can Help Prevent Feelings of Resentment In A Loving Relationship
by Paul Mauchline
The conversations that you have at the beginning of your relationship are especially important; they can help prevent any feelings of resentment that might arise later on in your life together.

The Art of Touching
by Paul Mauchline
All of us - young and old, single and in relationship - need touch. Actions, in many cases, communicate more than words. Physical contact is a prerequisite both for a healthy individual, and for a fulfilling, mature, loving relationship with a partner.

Getting Enough Attention
by Tony Schirtzinger; ACSW, CICSW
"HE'S ONLY DOING IT FOR THE ATTENTION" What a ridiculous statement! Getting attention is VITAL for all of us. As infants we would actually die if we didn't get enough attention, and as adults we are miserable and can actually go crazy i

Barriers To Relationship Intimacy: Avoid the Dirty Dozen
The Relationship Handbook
by Jan Maizler, MSW, LCSW
The following twelve areas are pitfalls in any relationship, that if allowed to flourish will cause that relationship to degrade and suffer. 1. Insufficient shared information creates a relationship vacuum and promotes guessing, projection, and suspicion.

Avoiding Miscommunication
This Darned Elusive Happiness
by Theun Mares
Joe and Susan, an otherwise normal couple, had problems communicating with one another. Whenever Joe voiced his opinion, Susan would interrupt him mid-sentence because she thought she knew exactly what he was going to say.

How To Talk About Feelings
by Tony Schirtzinger; ACSW, CICSW
THREE DECISIONS: Whenever we have a chance to talk about our feelings, we make three quick decisions. We Decide: Whether To SAY What We Feel. Whether To EXPRESS The Feelings. Whether To WORK AT PROBLEM SOLVING. We usually make these decisions

Communication That Really Improves Relationships
by Alina Ruigrok
Communication is something we all know is necessary to keep any relationship strong and loving, and although we are aware of the importance of communication, we still seem to be clueless about what exactly good communication really is.

Why Are Men So Difficult?
It's A Guy Thing : An Owner's Manual for Women
by David Deida
Most women, at one time or another, have wondered why their man was so difficult-why, on occasion, he behaved like a jerk. The answer is easy: Most men give out masculine energy. This, at times, is offensive to most women.

Nurture the red-blooded male in him
by Peta Heskell
Well adjusted, red blooded men like sex. Flirt with him. Remind him about the sexual intimacies that you share. If you love to cook, do so and get off on him enjoying your food. Above all show him that you desire him. Statistics say that they think about

Arguing, Power Struggles and Emotional Communication
by Susan Lanir, M.S.W., C.S.W.
My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. We truly love each other and plan to be together forever. I left for school this year so now we have a long-distance relationship. We have been having problems lately that we cannot pinpoint. We

Nagging
Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes : The Ultimate Guide to the Opposite Sex
by Barbara Pease, Allan Pease
Nag: verb to annoy, badger, bend someone's ear, berate, breathe down someone's neck, worry, harrass, hassle, henpeck, pester, plague, provoke, scold, torment; noun a person, especially a woman, who nags. Nagging is a term used almost exclusively by men

Positive Thinking : Spread A Little Sunshine
by Leslie Karen Lobell, M.A.
Have you noticed that the majority of human beings seem to focus on the negative? Why not accentuate the positive and spread a little sunshine? Instead of focusing on the negative or digging up the dirt, why not spend more time looking for the beauty

My husband hates my family and refuses to try to get along with them
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
I need help with family issues. My husband hates my family and refuses to try to get along with them. Instead, he always looks for more reasons to hate them and opportunities to hurt them. My family hasn't liked him from the beginning.

How to Argue with Men!
by Bob Grant, L.P.C.
We have all seen a movie or read a book which teaches people how to resolve conflicts (fight fair). It usually involves talking calmly or repeating back to the person what they have said (i.e.: Yes I hear what you're saying. You're saying I'm an idiot!).

How to Discuss Issues, Part 1
by James Lucoff
Like collisions, marital arguments happen and often when least expected. But when crashes occur on the road of married life there’s a lot more at stake than sore muscles. Unresolved conflicts in a marriage can put out the fire of romance, squelch in

GOSSIP: When words have the power to hurt
by Leslie Karen Lobell, M.A.
We must not forget the power of the word. We can misuse the word, or we can choose to use the word impeccably. Gossip is what Don Miguel Ruiz would consider misuse of the word; he calls it pure poison. The words spread through

Understanding The Basics
The Definitive Book of Body Language
by Barbara Pease, Allan Pease
Everyone knows someone who can walk into a room full of people and within minutes give an accurate description about the relationships between those people and what they are feeling. The ability to read a person's attitudes and thoughts by their behavior

Men Are Difficult
If Men Could Talk: Unlocking the Secret Language of Men
by Alon Gratch, Ph.D.
It's not that men don't talk, says Dr. Alon Gratch, it's just that they speak a different language. Drawing on the stories of his male patients and on his own experiences as a man-as a son, husband, father, therapist, and friend-Dr. Gratch brilliantly